Are you trying to control something? Stop!
I made up this mantra this morning, when I realized how much tension I was holding in my body. I had done something that I thought bothered my co-worker and my fear of her judging me led me to judge myself. This led me to hold my breath, breathe less deeply. So I told myself to be open to whatever happened: if my co-worker ended up expressing disappointment, I would respond to it then—I didn’t have to store the anticipatory emotions in my body.
Another thought on control: When you press a button, it doesn’t work until you lift your finger. This signifies the balance between acting and letting go.
What are you trying to control at this moment?
Someone else’s reaction?