Being raised as an Orthodox Jew, the Siddur (Jewish prayer book) played a prominent role in my education. As a young adult, I paid even closer attention to the words of the prayers and their historical context and significance. In later years I became less by the book, literally, and didn't recite them regularly. Instead, … Continue reading Self-Love in the Siddur (Jewish Prayer Book)
My parents gave me the ingredients. But I choose at what temp and for how long it cooks.
"Beep. beep," exclaimed my 21-month-old as the oven timer went off. Whenever she hears the oven beep, she repeats it. She's been doing this for several weeks. One time when she was being a bit unruly (as a toddler is apt to be) I even decided to set the timer with nothing in the oven, … Continue reading Jewish New Year Reboot
One day I was driving through the local shopping center, and I thought about how far removed I felt from the person walking in front of the stop sign in which I was stopped. I was ready to continue driving the instant that person cleared the area. Why I myself am a pedestrian I feel … Continue reading Increased Self-Compassion Breeds Greater Compassion for Others
Along with the thrill of moving into a larger home, are the negative thoughts it triggers. Feelings that I don't deserve to live in a large space, and then ironically, feelings of jealousy over other homes which are far bigger. My brain ping pongs between these two unsavory mental states. This past weekend I went … Continue reading Who Are You—On the Inside?
As I look forward to seeing many of my beloved relatives, I am NOT looking forward to the inevitable psychological backlash. When I see these relatives (basically, all of them) I am reminded of the person who I used to be, the young woman they saw blossoming and were so excited for what was to … Continue reading Family Reunion Triggers Self-Judgment
Last week my husband started an online course in coding. As I listened in to the introductory portion of his class, I was so intimated by all the other participants—finance, researchers, startup founders—comparing myself (and, by extension, my loved ones) to others has always been a weakness of mine, and I'm still working on it! … Continue reading Social Comparison and Childhood Ping Pong Tournaments