Soon after one of my yoga sessions, I had a difficult conversation at work. Doing the yoga prior helped me feel more centered during this. I was firm, but not reactive. I was assertive and communicated my needs without becoming overly emotional.
Along with the thrill of moving into a larger home, are the negative thoughts it triggers. Feelings that I don't deserve to live in a large space, and then ironically, feelings of jealousy over other homes which are far bigger. My brain ping pongs between these two unsavory mental states. This past weekend I went … Continue reading Who Are You—On the Inside?
As I look forward to seeing many of my beloved relatives, I am NOT looking forward to the inevitable psychological backlash. When I see these relatives (basically, all of them) I am reminded of the person who I used to be, the young woman they saw blossoming and were so excited for what was to … Continue reading Family Reunion Triggers Self-Judgment
In Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT), there is a practice of writing down one's thoughts and then questioning them. Asking oneself: Is there another way I could have interpreted this situation? I did something like that recently. I decided to record each time my co-worker said something that hurt my feelings. Anything that made me feel judged, … Continue reading Strategy for Handling Negative Thoughts
After a frustrating day at work with multiple misunderstandings with my co-worker, I was ready to relax. I got off earlier than usual so I went to treat myself to getting my eyebrows threaded—some self-care, me-time. There was a long line of people waiting, so I signed in on their iPad (what great use of … Continue reading Negative Energy EVEN at Self-Care Appointments
Recently I was reminded of my need to work on having a healthier mindset. I was covering for a co-worker in a different room. My supervisor came to check in and told me should I need anything to give her a call. Fifteen minutes later, something came up. Instead of calling my supervisor for help … Continue reading Choosing a Healthier Mindset
What is the time in our lives as single professionals? Just a waiting period before marriage? A purgatory which some may never leave? And if/when one does marry and build a family, what to make of all those years? Self-discovery, at times, self-destruction. Soul-searching, soul-crushing. Was it just a dream? (Or a nightmare?) Did it … Continue reading Life as a Single Young Professional
Last week my husband started an online course in coding. As I listened in to the introductory portion of his class, I was so intimated by all the other participants—finance, researchers, startup founders—comparing myself (and, by extension, my loved ones) to others has always been a weakness of mine, and I'm still working on it! … Continue reading Social Comparison and Childhood Ping Pong Tournaments